Traditional Chinese Wedding
![]() A traditional Chinese wedding process all started with the man’s family sending a matchmaker to the girl’s household for a marriage proposal. |
![]() Once the verbal agreement from the girl’s parents was obtained, the man’s family would present betrothal gifts along with a formal written marriage proposal to the girl’s family. |
![]() On the wedding day, the man went to the girl’s residence to meet his fiancee for the first time in his life. COMMENTS FROM GOOGLE PLUS:I’m having a hard time understanding how intelligent people can get married like this?—
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In old China, the marriage was not the union of love but the merge of two business entities. ~_^ .However, on the other hand, for most humans, love is one of the least reliable emotional states, and if a marriage is solely based on love, it could be short lived. |
![]() By then the girl got dressed up in her bedroom ready for the wedding. |
![]() Before leaving, she farewelled to her parents by presenting three kowtows, thanking them to bringing her up. Often the mother and the daughter would cuddle each crying. |
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![]() The man led his bride into his residence. |
![]() The groom and the bride bowed to Heaven and Earth, bowed to the man’s parents and bowed to each other. |
![]() The groom removed the bride’s head cover to discover what his wife looked like. Being of the Western mindset …It’s incomprehensible to marry someone you never met and then lift the veil to meet her face to face for the first time.What if you had met her somewhere years earlier, just never knowing that she was your future wife?I guess it requires a lot of commitment to the specific culture and mindset.Obviously it requires loyalty to deeper values and training in the same values —
In old Chinese culture, marriage was not about the relationship between a man and a woman but a business between two families, therefore how two juniors, who personally handled the formation of So and So Partners Pty Ltd, felt their team member was less relevant.However, since the junior staff members lacked experience in HR and often judged a person in face value (literally here), so it would be wise to conceal the face of the new worker until the process of merge was complete, otherwise what if one or both juniors rejected to accept to work with the new staff member and walked out on the ceremony?Once the couple were safely locked in the wedding chamber after the ceremony and met each other face to face for the first time, it was all too late even they disliked one another, as the formation of the Pty Ltd had already been signed for through three kowtows to Heaven, to parents and to each other and witnessed by all wedding guests.All they could do was to make the situation workable and tried to find the positive aspects in each other.After all, business is business. You do not go to work to make a friend but to make a living.Thus as you can see, such arranged marriage is quite inhuman and should not be revived and inherited as part of the traditional Chinese culture. |
![]() Now they were formally husband and wife. |
![]() The newlyweds were led to their wedding chamber.
— Didn’t the husband know where the wedding chamber was?—
Good question :DDDDD. He must be too drunk to remember anything …..But the same question can be asked about a classic Western wedding: Does the bride know in which church her wedding is held and who will be her husband? Why does she need her father to lead her way? ;D |
![]() Next day, the couple went to pay morning respect to the man’s parents, by then the old couple met their daughter-in-law for the first time. By this time the wedding process was complete. The bride would have a three-day wedding holiday in her new home. After this short break, she was expected to share housework with other female members in the family, and her first project usually was to make soup, and her seniors would then assess her cooking skills. Assess cooking skills???
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